Hearing about Steve Jobs death was unexpected to myself and many. Yet, I then went about my day. I could feel my energy drop and feeling very sad. I took a long lap and woke up tired, depressed. I really had no idea why I felt this way. I thought it may have been the hashbrown potatoes that I ate for breakfast. The carbohydrates bringing my energy down.
And then I saw him on the evening news as they talked about his death. When I saw his picture I again felt drained and sad. Now I realize that I had been affected by Steve Jobs death. I was amazed that I felt this way, yet knowing that I was in the mourning stage.
Again, I was surprised because I do not have any Apple technology. In fact I have a HP computer, and the regular 3-G cell phone. I drive by the local Apple store and am amused how crowded the store always seems to be. Yet I have never stepped into the store. So again, I wonder even more. Why has this man affected me so much?
I am in the mourning stage.
Even though I do not know this man I have seen how he has contributed to the world. Not just with his Apple products but with the way he lives and the way he wants to contribute to our world. He is a man of high integrity, honesty, creativity, fun, love for his real and Apple Family. He is conscientious, caring and warm.
As I write those words which are really our values. I now realize why I am so sad and tired. I am mourning his death. Many people around the world are mourning his death. They are mourning with me. You may be mourning with me. We are in a large community of mourners.
Why We Mourn:
When we mourn it means that our values are no longer being satisfied. This is essential to realize or we might mourn for longer than we need to. I’ll state this again, morning means that our needs or values are not being satisfied.
As I listed Steve Jobs had many values. Values of integrity, honesty, creativity, fun and love. When You and I lose these values that other people offer us, we enter the mourning stage. It is like somebody close to you, passes away and we lose our energy. We feel weak, maybe depressed. It is because the values once offered seem not to be present any more.
Why you may be sad, depressed, frustrated?
Values are Life Energy:
If our values are satisfied our emotions are up, not satisfied… emotions are low. If you are upset… frustrated, your values are probably not satisfied. If satisfied your emotions and energy is sky high. Think about the value “love”. If love is satisfied, high energy, not… then low energy. Plus you are responsible to meet your values, not others. Yet you can ask them to help you meet your values.
I will show you a different way to mourn. So that your energy will rebound faster, yet still respecting the life of anybody. You are mourning yet celebrating their life,
1 identify the feelings that you have in the present moment.
2 identify the values that the person offered to you. These values are your life energy. So you can see how you can be in this morning state because these values, these needs or life energy are not being satisfied at this time.
The values may be love, integrity,warmth, trust, safety, and so many more. You can find this list of our life energy, our values… on the Internet. Just google “list of values”. You will see several lists that will help you identify values that are important to you.
3: Look at the list or write out the values that you think the person has satisfied for you. Imagine how this person satisfied these needs for you. You are now celebrating this person’s life. Just by doing this exercise your energy level should raise.
You might even want to think of other ways that you can satisfy these needs for others. This is a way to have additional needs met for you by contributing to others. As this person contributed to you.
Steve Jobs may rest in peace as he has contributed so much to the world. Maybe now it is your turn to contribute back.
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